2. Take Responsibility For Your Life
The secret to happiness is freedom, and the secret to freedom is courage- Thucydides
Taking responsibility for my life means so many different things to me. Or maybe it means the same thing I can just relate it to soooo many areas of my life. I think the first time I learned this lesson was when I was making my amends. I had an ex-boyfriend that I couldn’t bring myself to make amends to. He was really not a good person. My sponsor kindly pointed out that I had an equal part to play in the melodrama. Not because I was drama, but because I remained in the relationship. He explained to me that when I knew the relationship was bad, it was my responsibility to leave. It is my responsibility to take care of myself, to make myself happy, and to protect myself. I had to take responsibility for my life. It took me a few years, but I finally made amends to that person a few months ago.
Then, I applied this philosophy to my education and planning my future. I know a lot of people that want to take a short cut in life. They want the easy job, or someone to take care of them, or they are lazy and can’t figure out why they don’t have anything. I was exactly the same way when I was younger and especially when I was drinking. But now, I know that my future is 100% dependent on my effort. My happiness and my security are my responsibility.
Then, of course, my sobriety. It is my responsibility to do the things I know are necessary for me to continue the life I have been blessed with. For me, this means going to meetings, this means being available and dependable to all recovery activities. It also includes working out. I feel my best when I do all of these things, therefore it is my responsibility to make sure I follow through.
Taking responsibility for my life, to me, means that I challenge myself. I don’t take the easy way just because the hard way seems too hard. I do what is best for me, even if it doesn’t feel good. And, most importantly, I take responsibility for the choices that I make even if they are wrong or bad. I am not perfect, and I don’t always do the right thing. But when I do it wrong, I certainly don’t blame anyone else. I am my responsibility.