This is a fabulous little tool I learned early in my sobriety, HALT- Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired- whenever I catch myself being grumpy, irritable, lazy, or negative, I go down this list to figure out what my problem is. Remember, the problem is always ME! If someone irritates me in some way or if I am short or snappy with people, it usually isn’t because something is wrong with them! It is always my attitude that needs adjusted and I am aware of that. So I go down this list of offenders and I almost always find some solution. Hungry- for those of you that know me….I am always hungry, lol. Seriously though, if I go too long without eating, or even too long without a cup of coffee, I can get super grouchy. Angry- I don’t find myself angry too often but it certainly happens. If I can identify the issue and figure a way to rectify the situation, then I can usually let go of anger pretty easily. Lonely- this gets me a lot and in ways that you probably wouldn’t think. Like when I’m at work and I hear people talking about going out together and doing things I will feel left out. The funny thing is, it is usually stuff I don’t even like to do!! But being the super-sensitive alcoholic that I am, I want to be included. Or, if there is something in particular that I want to do and I can’t find anyone to go with me then I will get bummed out. For me, the key to battling lonliness is to reach out to people- I don’t have to sit back and wait for people to invite me, I can invite them also. Or I can go to a meeting to be with like-minded people, or I can go to the coffee shop where I know sober people go. And finally, the #1 offender- TIRED. I am probably tired more than the other three combined! Sometimes, even when I feel as though I ‘should be’ doing productive things, I have to realize that sleep is necessary. I can easily work myself to a point of exhaustion. I have my regular jobs, plus the blog, building a website, writing articles, constantly reading literature about recovery, blah blah blah….. = exhausted. If I wear myself down to a point of being a raging, bitchy lunatic then I am of no service to anyone. Especially those of you with kids! Sleep!! Take a nap when they take a nap, whatever you have to do to take care of yourself, do it. HALT really is a great tool and I think you will be surprised how helpful it is. Even if it just allows you to take a moment to yourself and think things through to adjust your mood or attitude, identifying the culprit is half the battle! Let me know how it works for you!!
As An Alcoholic, Remember H.A.L.T.
Posted on June 22, 2010
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